So I have been using Tinder for a little while. Its scary, really scary. There are great swathes of people who simply get rejected for having linear family trees.
But I have matches a few, clearly based on the checklist items that I have so far identified. I have even been on a few dates.
Now, I think I need to keep a set of posts about each date, its strenghts, weaknesses, good points, and even bad points but before I start documenting them I have a general question that I think needs to be answered. Who pays the bill.
Clearly as a gentleman (or a close approximation of one) I will always offer to pay the bill – and being a reasonably well paid gentleman I will normally fight off offers from the very lovely lady sat on the other side of the table. That is easy. But no everyones position is the same – and this blog is not just about my experience but generally the experience of others re-entering the dating scene in their mid 40s.
There comes a time when that doesn’t necessarily work. I am sure there are questions when one party has been rude, if one earns significantly more than other, if someone has lied on their profile, but i am not focusing on that but rather “What if the date hasn’t worked and there is no chance of seeing each other again ?”.
Should the guy still pay for everything ? With a drink, who cares, but dinner could start running in to hundreds of pounds. I guess this is why first date should always just be coffee, or a drink. No dinner.
Maybe that is a new rule. First dates, drinks only.
Although sending someone home hungry is never a good thing……
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